Anyway, this post I saw was about an older woman (I believe she was in her early 60's) who had a very unique and bold style. In the post, she mentioned that her bold style helped her deal with the public and the invisibility that comes with age. This really made me think. As I get older (I'm 37 now), I can see changes in the way the public views me. I used to get cat calls all the time. Not that I would encourage cat calling at all, but I noticed when it stopped. Honestly, I miss it a little. I miss the feeling of being attractive to men that I don't know. I miss the feeling of being desirable. Now that I am a wife and a mother, I rarely pass the usual places where a young girl could expect the longing eyes of young men, and I wouldn't trade my life now for anything in the world, but it's still a change.
I recently had shoulder surgery and I noticed a HUGE difference when I went to the store after my surgery versus when I was younger. When I was young, if my arm was in a brace, any young man would have gone out of his way to help me push my cart to my car and help me load my groceries. No questions asked. However, when I went to the store a few days after my surgery at the age of 37, not one single person offered to help me in any way. The employee at the store didn't offer to help me to the car. Not one of the 7 men or women that passed by me on the way to my car offered to help me, despite my arm brace and the fact that I was almost in tears from the pain of pushing the cart to may car. I'm sure my pain was written all over my face.
My point is, I would have LOVED it if someone...anyone...would have even offered to help me. I likely would have said that I was fine and I could handle it, but it would have made my day if just one person had noticed me. If just one person had showed basic compassion, I would have been thrilled beyond belief.
We need to do this for the elderly in our community. If they are going to the grocery store, the probably don't have family available to help them with these tasks that we find so simple. Be patient when they are a little slow getting their groceries on the conveyor belt at the store. Be patient when they are slow to cross the street or get out of the parking spot that you really want.
Grocery bags are very heavy for older people. Yes, they will need to unload them when they get home, but what's the harm in helping them when they are at the store or when we can see they are in need? If they say no to the offer of help, that's fine, but I can assure you, just the offer will make them happier than you can imagine. The fact that someone noticed them means the world to them and makes them feel like they matter and are worth noticing...if only for a moment.
Let's all slow down for just a moment and notice those around us. We are all on this Earth together and we can all take 2 seconds out of our day to do good. I have helped countless elderly people in the parking lot find their cars. It only takes 2 minutes and I hope that someday, someone will have the compassion to help me when I'm old and can't find my car. Elderly people are not invisible and we should not treat them as though they are. PLEASE take 2 minutes out of your day to make someone happy. It really means more than you will ever know.